Managing Anxiety About The Future

Almost all anxiety is anxiety about the future. We worry about what’s going to happen to our health, our jobs, our relationships, and a myriad of other things. However, most anxiety is rooted in our past experiences. It is not a realistic appraisal of what might happen to us in the future.

Why Do Clients Come To See You for Anxiety?

Clients come to therapy because they’ve been unsuccessful in trying to manage their anxiety on their own. As soon as they stop worrying about one thing, they start worrying about…Read More

Can My Past Keep Me From Making Good Choices in Life?

People who struggle as adults with whether or not they are making good choices in life need to look to their past, such as childhood issues connected to their families. I provide several examples of these issues, with the details changed to protect confidentiality.

How Would You Categorize these Problems?

I would establish two broad categories for the kinds of problems I see that hinder my clients from making good choices in life. They are:

Category #1:  Parents Who Are Too Hands-Off

Many people feel directionless because they grew up in…Read More

Is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Making Me Depressed?

Are you depressed but don’t know why?

Your depression may be due to past experiences you thought were inconsequential but were, in reality, traumatic for you.  You might be experiencing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Or your depression may also be the result of other kinds of trauma that are less dramatic but no less painful.

What is Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Depression?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder occurs when people are exposed to an extreme external stressor, such as actual or threatened death, injury or sexual violence. You can also…Read More

Is Mindfulness Alone an Effective Treatment for Anxiety?

Have you tried using mindfulness techniques, such as breathing exercises or meditation, to help with your anxiety? Is it working or do you believe something is missing? Although mindfulness has its benefits, by itself, it’s not always an effective treatment for anxiety.

Why Isn’t Mindfulness a “Magic Bullet” Treatment for Anxiety?

Let’s keep in mind that mindfulness can offer some help for those struggling with anxiety. For example, if you are feeling anxious about giving a presentation to a room full of your colleagues, practicing mindful breathing can be really helpful. Not…Read More

How Childhood Neglect Causes Self-Sabotage

I wrote previously about how self-sabotage negatively affects those who have been in abusive relationships. However, did you know that people who have been subject to neglect growing up also self-sabotage? Learned in childhood, it will have a negative effect on one’s life well into adulthood, including making life choices.

What is Self-Sabotage?

I described self-sabotage in an earlier post, so I’ll just do a quick recap here. I refer to self-sabotage as “snatching defeat from the jaws of victory.” It’s when people undermine themselves, just when they…Read More