Everyone gets angry or moody, and even the most loving couples have disagreements. Researcher John Gottman claims that couples need to avoid four really destructive behaviors when they find themselves in conflict with one another. Gottman says to avoid using the words “always” and “never” which tend to attack the person and not the event that has made them unhappy. Try not to be defensive when someone points out a problem but, rather, take responsibility for your actions. Don’t focus on the things you dislike about your partner; think about the positive aspects that your partner brings to your relationship. If you are overwhelmed and need time to think, let your partner know that.
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