Social anxiety is more than just feeling nervous around other people. It’s a problem that often originates in early experiences of shame. That’s why we are talking today with Dr. Jane Rubin about social anxiety and what people can do about it.
How Does Shame Connect With Social Anxiety?
People with social anxiety don’t just feel bad about something they’ve done, such as making an awkward remark in a social situation. They believe something is wrong with them, at the core of their being. They also believe that other…Read More
This week we are discussing an issue with Dr. Jane Rubin that many clients face: whether the “good choices” they make for themselves are “selfish choices?” It turns out that, for many, the distinction is not always so clear and this is the cause of considerable anguish.
How Would You Define Good vs. Bad Choices?
I don’t have a one-size-fits-all definition of good and bad choices. My role is to help people come to their own decisions about the choices that are best for them. One stumbling block that…Read More
How Would You Define Low Self-Esteem and Depression?
People with low self-esteem are very critical of themselves. They see themselves as fundamentally inadequate compared to other people.
People who are depressed suffer from a consistently low mood. They feel hopeless and pessimistic.
Often, low self-esteem and depression go together. People who are depressed often blame themselves for their depression and…Read More
Almost all anxiety is anxiety about the future. We worry about what’s going to happen to our health, our jobs, our relationships, and a myriad of other things. However, most anxiety is rooted in our past experiences. It is not a realistic appraisal of what might happen to us in the future.
Clients come to therapy because they’ve been unsuccessful in trying to manage their anxiety on their own. As soon as they stop worrying about one thing, they start worrying about…Read More
People who struggle as adults with whether or not they are making good choices in life need to look to their past, such as childhood issues connected to their families. I provide several examples of these issues, with the details changed to protect confidentiality.
How Would You Categorize these Problems?
I would establish two broad categories for the kinds of problems I see that hinder my clients from making good choices in life. They are:
Category #1: Parents Who Are Too Hands-Off
Many people feel directionless because they grew up in…Read More