Levon Helm, the great drummer and singer of The Band, died on April 19, 2012. In his obituaryin the New York Times, Jon Pareles wrote “Mr. Helm didn’t call attention to himself. Three bass-drum thumps at the start of one of the Band’s anthems, “The Weight”, were all that he needed to establish the song’s gravity. His playing served the song.”
The Maniac In Me
Are You A Hyper-Sensitive Person?
Do you take things a little too personally? Do you become very defensive? At times, we all do, but a new discovery shows that many people are born “highly sensitive”. Using brain activation studies, researchers at Stony Brook University have proven that hyper-sensitive people are genetically different from people with a normal degree of sensitivity.
High Self-Esteem Can Go A Long Way
Therapy Of A Different Sort
Mental Health Month: 9 Myths About Mental Illness & Therapy
In Therapy Forever? Enough Already
Going Solo: A Brief History Of Living Alone And The Enduring Social Stigma Around Singletons
Living alone is one of the least discussed and most poorly understood issues of our time. Although some regard living alone as anathema, living alone is “the most prominent residential type.” In his book, Going Solo, Eric Klinenberg explores the history of and the social attitudes toward living alone.
No Pain, No Gain: Why We Punish Ourselves
Keith Richards:Psychotherapist?
The Desire For Autonomy
According to research, autonomy, which is the desire to make choices according to our own free will, is hardwired in all of us. External pressures from other people, internal pressures, like guilt or shame, or anything that causes us to feel coerced can quickly cause our feelings of autonomy to vanish.
The Hidden Cost Of Fitting In
Why You Shouldn’t Ignore A Grieving Heart
A recent study has shown that a person’s heart attack symptoms after they’ve lost a loved one shouldn’t be dismissed as “just” a psychological reaction to grief. The stress of losing a loved one appears to significantly increase one’s risk for heart attack, especially for those already at high risk for heart problems.
“The Ties That Bind”: How Fear Of Not Being Cool Can Keep You From Finding Your Life Purpose
“You're so afraid of being somebody's foolNot walkin' tough, baby, not walkin' coolYou walk cool, but darlin', can you walk the lineAnd face the ties that bind….Now you can't break the ties that bind.”Bruce Springsteen, “The Ties That Bind”These lyrics from Bruce Springsteen describe the aching ambivalence that many people feel about romantic relationships.
"I Shall Be Released": Release From Self-Blame and the Process of Finding Your Life Purpose
"Standing next to me in this lonely crowdIs a man who swears he's not to blameAll day long I hear him shout so loud,Crying out that he was framed." Bob Dylan, "I Shall Be Released"In my last post, I talked about how depression caused by lack of adequate mirroring can forestall the process of finding your life purpose.
"A Dark Turn Of Mind": Depression As An Obstacle To Finding Your Life Purpose
"I was hungry and it was your world": How Shame About Your Ambitions Can Keep You From Finding Your Life Purpose
"One Step Up and Two Steps Back": Obstacles to Finding Your Life Purpose
“Somewhere along the line I slipped off track/One step up and two steps back.” Bruce Springsteen, “One Step Up”In my previous blog posts, I’ve talked about how you can know if you’re on the right track to finding your life path.
It Ain't No Sin To Be Glad You're Alive: How To Find Happiness In Your Life Purpose
"It ain't no sin to be glad you're alive". (Bruce Springsteen, "Badlands")"It ain't no sin to be glad you're alive" is one of my favorite lines from any song I know. I often quote it to people I see in my psychotherapy practice because it so accurately captures their struggle to find happiness and their life purpose.
No Direction Home: How Do I Find My Purpose In Life?
In my post , “Don’t Write A Resume”, I talked about the five ways you can know that you’re doing something that matters to you. Those five ways are:1) You’re willing to put in a lot more work than is actually required;2) You’re willing to give up other things that are important to you—time with my friends, going out, free time—in order to do what matters to you;